I mean, you might not be a genius, but neither is that guy that just got your promotion. It’s not the first time this has happened either. It seems like you’re always getting passed over for the gigs that come complete with more responsibility and a bigger pay check. Some less qualified Smoh swoops in and steels your thunder.
You’ve got brains, dashing good looks, and plenty of credentials. From the outside looking in, you are a business rock star. You have potential; you’re just waiting for the talent agent – your boss – to notice. You’re ready for the big time; you just have to wait it out.
Oh no, there it is – the first red flag.
You’re waiting for someone to notice you, your talents and your abilities? Sorry, it doesn’t work like that. While you’re waiting for permission to implement of your brilliant ideas, those second rate less qualified nobodies you despise aren’t sitting on their hands; they’re taking action. They’re not waiting to get noticed, they’re going to make waves and get noticed.
We might be onto something here. What else is driving a wedge between you and your success?
Afraid – acting on all of your great ideas is scary, and executing is crazy difficult. You are afraid. You are afraid of looking silly, you’re afraid of making a mistake, you’re afraid of failing. That’s okay; fear and failure are part of the process. You can’t fight’em, so you might as well embrace them.
Entitled – nobody owes you anything. You’re never going to get a handout. There’s no such thing as overnight success. There are only two ways of getting ahead; doing the work and not doing the work. If you prefer, you can chose the latter and tell yourself how great you are while you continue to underachieve. Or, you can get to work – right now!
Wasting Time – you’re convinced that there’s not enough time in the day to make an impact on all of the work you have to do. Sure, we could all use more time, but you’re wasting the time you do have. You’re doing meaningless tasks and taking too many breaks. You look busy, but that’s because you’re doing busy work, not meaningful work. Spend your time doing more things that matter and fewer things that don’t.
Negative – you’re the first person to say that an idea will fail or that it can’t be done. You point out other people’s flaws and mistakes. You think there’s some black cloud following you around because you can’t ever catch a break. Here’s the thing; you are the black cloud. Instead of always pointing out flaws, try offering a solution. Don’t break people down, build them up. Know this, like attracts like. If you have a bad attitude and continue to think negatively, you’re going to find yourself surrounded by negative people with negative thoughts. Good luck with that.
Making Excuses – it’s not your fault you’re not successful. Right, it’s never your fault. Get that weak stuff out of here! Start taking responsibility for your actions and your life, your success and your failure. Excuses are empty and cowardly. You know what matters, results. Stop talking and start doing. All that time you spend making up excuses could be better spent on of the work you don’t have time for.
Lazy – this one is plain and simple, you’re not willing to put in the work. If you’re not as successful as you would like to be, or at least as successful as the next guy, you are not working hard enough.
I know, you’re waiting, you’re scared, you deserve more, you don’t have enough time, it’s too hard, and it’s not possible. Are you kidding me? Drop the sob story already. We just finished squashing all of this nonsense.
Here’s the truth; you’re lazy. The vast majority of people who are successful worked their tails off to get there. If you’re not, you haven’t worked hard enough, long enough. If don’t want to work, you’re lazy. Which is fine, you just have to admit it and stop wondering why less qualified people are more successful that you. You already know, they worked harder.